Why Choosing Yourself Makes People Mad ? and Why That’s Exactly the Point! There’s a certain moment in every woman’s life , especially the ones who’ve carried too much, swallowed too much, and apologized too much, where something inside you stops breaking… and starts building. And that moment? Is the exact same moment you become the villain in somebody else’s story. Funny how that works. Because the second you choose yourself, the second you stop shrinking, the second you say, “Actually, NO, I don’t want this bullshit anymore,” suddenly everyone who benefited from your smallness starts crying betrayal.