Everyone’s “Healing,” but Nobody Wants the Truth
A Cultural Observation from the inside of The Realm of Chaos…
Somehow, everyone is healing these days.
Healing from trauma, even from a stubbed toe on a kitchen table months later.
Healing from burnout, something they did to themselves.
Healing from situationships, childhoods, jobs, families, and vibes.
And yet…
nothing is actually changing…
Seems like just another excuse not to face the damn truth.
Lawless (looking around):
“A lot of healing for a place that keeps repeating itself.”
She’s not wrong, look around you.
Do you see change?
Or, just more excuses?
Healing Became a Personality, Not a Practice
Culture loves the language of healing, anymore.
It sounds good.
Creates pitty, and attention around yourself.
It feels safe.
It’s a spot you don’t ever have to leave,
it is you’re own healing journey right?
It explains absolutely everything,
Just by using a single short uneducated sentence.
“I’m healing” now covers:
- avoiding accountability
repeating the same behaviors- refusing feedback
- opting out of discomfort
Healing became a label you wear, not actual work you do.
Rebel (arms crossed):
“If you’re healing, something should look different by now.”
Oof.
So, what is that something?
Us, here in the Realm, on One Bad Maa, are seriously waiting for the
glitter, sparkles, and the world to look much brighter.
Now that everyone has gone through their healing era.
Can we include, no aches, pains, or ailments,
Since we are all healers now!
Truth Is Unpopular When Comfort Is the Goal
Here’s the part no one likes, and maybe even make the reader very uncomfortable.
Most people don’t want honesty, they don’t want to face the noise.
They want validation.
They want:
- reassurance without reflection
- support without challenge
- agreement without responsibility
Truth requires real adjustments.
Comfort requires agreement from others.
Guess which one culture chooses.
Don’t worry we’re all healing right?
Rage (already irritated):
“Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to.”
Because honesty is the name of my game, I do not care about your healing journey.
“I’m Working on Myself” Has No Deadline
That phrase used to mean something.
Now it means:
Don’t look too closely at what I am doing.
It has no timeline, no end date, can last the whole lifecycle
No evidence, to you ever working on yourself.
No visible shift.
Just infinite patience from everyone else, all the damn time.
Healing without change is just self-soothing with better branding on the name.
Vex (quiet, observant):
“Language can be a shield.”
And this healing culture hands them out freely.
Why Nothing Moves Forward
When truth is labeled as:
- harsh
- negative
- toxic
- unsupportive
People stop offering it, even though people do need to hear it.
So cycles repeat.
Patterns stay intact.
And everyone keeps “healing” the same wound
without ever touching the cause.
Saying “I’m healing”, is like wearing a mask to hide all your real bullshit.
Meany (chewing a ripped affirmation card):
“This tastes fake.”
And she isn’t wrong, it’s fake to all the other senses too.
Or, did the healers forget about those?
The Realm’s Take
In the Realm, healing isn’t announced.
It’s visible.
It shows up as:
- different choices
- tighter boundaries
- calmer reactions
- fewer repeats
Truth isn’t cruelty.
It’s information.
And growth doesn’t happen in comfort.
It happens in adjustment.
And, don’t worry people,
Here, in the Realm of Chaos,
we are healing too.
From what you may ask?
We’re healing from all the bullshit we have to go through dealing with you healers
not willing to face the music…
We’re healing from having to stuff our words,
to save a healers feelings.
We’re healing from having to hide ourselves,
So healers aren’t any more traumatized.
We’re healing from this fucked up, pussified culture,
you cry babies are creating.
Final Cultural Reality Check
If you’re healing but everything looks the same,
you’re not healing.
You’re coping.
You’re hiding,
You’re seeking attention,
You’re the actual problem and don’t want to be an adult and face it,
And that’s all fine,
if you want to be like that
just don’t confuse the two.